You get what you want when you truly want it.

How many things do you want to accomplish? There is a list in everyone's mind. Whether it be love, money, success, or friendship (or a particular B.M.I. and cholesterol count) we have goals and desires. Why do some of these seem to never come to fruition? We strive, we apply, we strategize...but to no avail. But are these things we TRULY want? Are they things that we think we need? Are they things that others have convinced us that we need? The reason why an item is desired will give much insight to the availability of that item. Personally, I want to floss after each meal. If I want this so badly...then why don't I carry floss with me wherever I go? What is the true reason I want to floss? Is it because I loathe the tone of my dental hygienist when she is scraping my teeth? Hardly a motivation to start flossing! I see her twice a year. Justification for leaving out the consistent flossing the 5 months between visits is just too easy! I don't really want to floss 3 times a day, I just want my hygienist to stop picking on me, literally. Another goal of mine is healthy eating. Convenience food, adieu. Oh, but the smell of those burgers and fries and the cool allure of the soft serve frozen custard would call to me. Recently I purchased a home with the perfect kitchen. Cooking is a breeze in my 'u' shaped counter top, multiple storage cabinet, kitchen. Homemade bread, scones, cakes, pies, pasta, and chicken soup streams out of the space with plenty of wholesome smells to trail behind. Organic vegetables, fruits, beans and whole grains are brought in from the local store and turned into filling and satisfying meals. What a dream come true! Along with this reality comes a healthier body, mind and better numbers on the scale. It is something desired that would not have happened until I was ready to truly want it. Nothing forced upon or brought about through scolding or self-hatred.      This is not to say that your dreams will come true once you can purchase that item (in this case a house) that will make it easy for you. Plenty of exercise treadmills, home gyms and stationary bikes to the contrary.  Also, this is not to dismiss life-threatening circumstances that can cause drastic changes in behavior.  But if one does not want to go to this extreme before they make a long-desired change, the best plan may be to take it easy. First, examine the reason for what you want. Why is it important? Second, try to take the path of self encouragement and support instead of yelling at yourself. When have you been truly inspired to accomplish something because someone yelled at you? Third, when your dream comes into being, enjoy it! Reward yourself with positive thoughts. Other rewards will follow, don't forget to celebrate them too!!